A letter to the SAHM from a working mom.
Dear Stay at Home Mom,
There is so much stigma around you. How "easy" your life must be to simply be a housewife with no work stressors or an angry boss to answer to. You're able to be with your kids and spend every moment with them! You better count your blessings that you are able to do that as the working moms don't have that luxury. It must be so great to have all the time in the world to do your laundry, clean your house, meal prep, and yet still have time to watch daytime television in your bathrobe!
Hold the phone. Back up. Rewind. Anyone who actually has a child knows that not a single one of these stigmas is REALITY.
Stay at home mamas.... I'm going to let you in on a little secret we working mamas don't want you to admit to but you deserve to know: Most of us could never do what you do.
Fact: I would love to see Luke more. I love him so much and I cherish the time I get with him. A big downside to being a working mom is the limited time throughout the week that we get to spend together. I love weekends because they are our mommy and me days. My husband works on most weekends, so it’s quality time... just me and my peanut.
Also a fact: this blog is about speaking the truth so I'm going to speak it mamas! I love and look forward to our mommy and me weekends, but man oh man do I also love me a MON- DAY! Dropping off my little one and getting to ADULT for five. whole. days. is a breath of fresh air that you stay at home mamas don't have the luxury of.
I have an extremely stressful career and work five days a week. I work long hours, travel back and forth to branch locations and have a lot of duties and responsibilities in my role. With that being said, there is absolutely NO comparison between my level of exhaustion on Friday nights vs. Sunday nights. Five days of work versus just two days of full time mommyhood, and there is no comparison!
I don’t want to pretend like I know what it is like being a stay at home mom. Other than the four weeks of true maternity leave, I have never actually been a stay at home mom. (I worked from home for another four weeks after the initial four, which was just plain impossible! Shout out to those mamas making that work! I babbled on in my last post about just barely being able to do my makeup with a child let alone making phone calls or writing reports)
The point of this letter is to tell you all how amazing you are. You are all superheros, and you need to be told that more often. You are a full time mommy not just for two days, but seven days a week, 365 days a year. You put your careers, dreams and aspirations on hold to raise your children and it is the toughest job out there. The way I see it, we are all working mamas. We just have different careers. Don't let anyone make you feel any less for being “just” a stay at home mom. It's the most difficult job and takes the utmost patience. Don’t for a second feel bad that the laundry didn't get done, or the house is a mess some days (or everyday) because “down time” to do all these housework things doesn't exist with kids unless they are asleep.. and by the time they are asleep you're ready to hit the sack and mentally prepare for another day of chaos right along with them!
The struggle as a mom is real and I just don't know how you do it. You amaze me. You inspire me. If you decide to hop back into the working world once your children are grown, I hope that you are able to do so seamlessly because the skills you acquire on the job as "mom" are some of the most important skills that cannot be taught in a school classroom or in a traditional work setting. You all are special and I hope you know that. I see you. I recognize your ability to do it all and you my friends, kick ass.
Cheers to all you do and for the amazing person you are.
A Working Mom