We don't do birthday parties.
My daughter turned four February 25th. FOUR. Can you believe that we made it four years as parents? I can't. lol. but that's beside the point...
I wanted to talk to you all today about the huge party we are...not having. She's four, and she is getting older, and I know how special these days are to her. They are to me too, believe me, but to me, the big party, the wrapped gifts, the friends and family you invite over on a Saturday or Sunday afternoon to come celebrate the big day is just so stressful to me.
Since when did our love for our kids get determined by the parties we have for them?? Perhaps it was when Pinterest emerged its big ugly head into our lives a few years ago. Pinterest was seriously the death of the confident mom, but again I digress.
For my beautiful girl's birthday, we went to Toys R' Us, went to the beach, went to eat at one of our favorite restaurants...went to a playground to run around and burn off some energy, went the local brewery where they played with other kids for hours, laughing and giggling at all the puppies who too came along to enjoy the beautiful afternoon, and then at the end of the day, we stuck a few candles in our favorite deserts of all times, "Nothing Bundt Cakes", and then we called it a day. It was a really wonderful day.
She was grinning ear to ear the whole day and for us parents, it was equally as enjoyable.
I love my little girl. I love her fiercely, and those who know me, know that I celebrate her and Caroline's life each and every day...(ok not every day, but A LOT of them!)
Life is meant to be enjoyed and regardless of the holiday or birthday, we certainly aren't supposed to spend one second of it stressed out. The truth is that parties stress me out, and I love my kiddos, but there are other ways to celebrate another year of life aside from Pinterest perfect parties, cartoon characters as far as the eye can see, and a dozen tiny children wreaking havoc in my home.
Birthday's are for the kids, but as moms, they are also days for us to reminisce and pat ourselves the back for another year of keeping a tiny human alive. That weekend, everyone won and I am so good with that.
Maybe you love throwing and hosting parties. It's totally good! Stand in your integrity mama and invite 100 people if you can! I just wasn't born with the hostess gene.
I tell this story mamas, because we need to be OK with showing up in the world, exactly as we are. I don't want to pretend to be someone I am not. I am a great mom regardless of the size or type of party we choose to throw...or not throw. Memories and special occasions are meant to be filled with love and we are meant to be surrounded by the people we love and we checked off both those boxes with ease baby.
So, here's to four. Here's to the kiddo who made me a mom and to the day that forever changed my life, February 25th, 2014.
Happy Birthday my girl. You are so full of kindness and life. You make everyone around you feel better just by being in the room. I look up to you so much and even at four you have taught me more about life than I had learned in the previous 28 years of my life.
I am forever thankful that the universe chose me to be your mom. It is truly an honor my love.
Love you more than all the stars in the sky.